Knowing ‘how to’ overcome our negative experiences is to get good at LIVING life fully.
Shared below are answers to some questions which may help you to decide if you would like to work with me.
If you resonate with my story, and our approach to use the Dalian Method, I am excited to share that life-changing transformation is awaiting you .
What do I enjoy most about the work I do?
To witness greater self-awareness, peace & fulfillment blossom in you, is my greatest joy and privilege! That spark of light in your eyes, that says – ‘Aaah I see and I can feel a new me’ in my own skin, helps to keep alive the fuel that motivates me, in spreading this work.
Transformation of disappointment, helplessness, confusion, stress and conflict – both internal or external, is where the true magic unfolds for me. No matter the route cause of the suffering you face, be it driven by;
(a) emotional triggers fed by fears, loss and misunderstandings, or (b) expectations not met, or (c) hopes sunken by illness, anxiety and self doubt, or (d) betrayal, bullying, exclusion, competition and judgments you least expected in your life, or (e) survival fears that make you question your worth, dignity and existence on the planet
~ the triumph of awakening your connection to the everlasting light, love and fearless creativity within you, always feels the same for me…euphoric.
Everything starts at birth and at home and those mysterious unconscious biases roll out as behaviours, into our relationships, schooling, work and recreational life, unknowingly.
Learning how to dismantle the self-sabotaging components permanently, without re-arranging the contents of your mind, is how your new future begins to unfold, and this is the absolute UNIQUENESS WE OFFER! A brand new paradigm of health and wellbeing that is untouched by what is happening in our outside world, but simply grows by opening up to what is already within.
I am lucky to ride your wave of expansion and celebration, as you dig into the treasure chest of wonders awaiting you, born out of dissolving the challenges you face, and connecting with your own consciousness.
What kind of work did I do before I got into this?
I qualified as a Chartered Accountant in 1986 in the UK, and took my problem solving abilities to the Corporate World, working in “Corporate Finance” for a top five Accountancy firm.
In 1989 I became a Finance Director for a facilities management company riddled with commercial problems, and successfully turned it around from a loss making, cash draining company into a thriving, system based, profit and cash generating platform.
This success then led me to be appointed as the CEO in 1997, responsible for 3000 people, working out of 600 client locations. We increased our turnover to $125m from $45m, repositioned our organization through new branding and systems, professionalized through radically changing the personnel and human resource policies and enjoyed much success until 2004.
I was often amongst the youngest in the board rooms that became my home, and usually the sole female voice amongst my male “mostly white” counterparts. I also learnt what it meant to prove my worth, as a female that had the added issue because she came from an ethnic origin too.
To navigate the negative unconscious bias that naturally got expressed against me, tested my metal in varied ways.
How did I enter the field of transformation?
I left my corporate role of leadership in Oct 2004, feeling empty and lacking purpose, disappointed by the lack of commercial ethics I had encountered. I was only 40 years old, so felt laden with anxious feelings about my uncertain future.
I now had deeper questions lurking inside me, beyond survival fears, as I knew I had lost some of my innocence and old juice for living.
In May 2005 my youngest sister had a car accident in which she became paralyzed (just a few weeks before we were due to walk a marathon together). Devastated and shocked by this crisis and the rehab that followed for the next 9 months – I plunged into looking for more solutions, and this time for problems that seemingly appeared ‘impossible to solve’.
I began to question why we have creativity only to see destruction. I was disillusioned, and confused too by this new layer of ‘crucifying painful suffering’. Why, and what was the point of it? I did not understand.
Then my husband decided our family should move to Vancouver in Canada, and emigration happened September 2006. Within a year of this, I became depressed, lonely & isolated from family and friends, and not having a career to focus on, escape from my internal mind-chatter was impossible, and a ‘can of worms’ began to open up.
Having learnt to swallow back emotions, in a stoic way in order to “hold it all together” for others in the years prior, the shut down I experienced was a very big surprise! At the same time, my relationship with my husband was disintegrating at great speed too.
I had lost faith in the human body, after seeing my sister’s life tragically altered. I had lost faith in relationships, watching my own falling apart. I had lost faith in concepts of striving for material success, feeling empty – knowing money does not buy you happiness.
Desperate for answers to my questions “What is the point of suffering”? “How do I get out of my inner angst?” “Why are we alive?” Why? Why? Why?
I scoured hungrily through every book I could find to fix my life. I entered the realm of self-help books, and this took me into a new path, more in the direction of psychology and something I refer to as “Inward self-discovery and new leadership”. My mind did its’ best to grasp the way forward but ‘no meaningful change’ was occurring – even if affirmations were being used and forgiveness was my intention, the old was still lurking! Every tool I used was simply ‘re-arranging’ my mind. It was not helping me to come out of my mind itself and off the hamster wheel creating the problems.
Eventually in 2008, an extraordinary book fell off the shelf and landed at my feet called “In Search of the Miraculous – Healing into Consciousness” by Eliza Mada Dalian. Therein lay the answers to all my questions and truth was shared, transferred as invisible energy on the pages to a knowing I had deep down inside, that recognized its’ contents as true.
I suddenly felt safe and excited, that I had possibly found the way out of my inner angst, pain and suffering. The experiences were yet to come, but I at least felt a glimmer of hope that something new was just around the corner!
And it was – the power of consciousness! The route to true transformation and transcendence. The route to liberation and joy. The route to health.
How did I recover from depression and fix my relationship with my husband?
With the discovery of Mada’s book, I invested in a private session directly with her Dalian Method, which helped lift me out of my depression. Mada worked with the body bypassing the mind. She created a way of going directly into the cells of the body, releasing and transforming the root cause of emotional, physical and mental problems, with the power of consciousness…. a very unique and forward thinking system. The first encounter was like a huge light bulb moment! Radical change…..
In the years since, and with repeated sessions, I have healed from severe back pain, menstrual problems, under-active thyroid condition, migraines, hives, knee swelling, heart arrhythmia palpitations, hip pain, menopausal issues as my body found ways to reset itself into wellness, through each of these symptoms. Clients have healed from neuropathy, fractures, sexual traumas, addiction, breathing problems and so much more!
Emotionally a light space began to grow in my belly and heart. I transformed many fears, some of which are listed here – fears of “not being enough”, of “not conforming”, of “failure”, of “death and disappearing”, of “needing approval”, of “loved ones’ dying”, of “rejection, criticism and judgment”, of “being a mum and not earning money”, of “claiming my gifts”, of “shining”, of “being alone” of “my real responsibility to myself and my fulfillment”, and so much more.
With each layer dissolved, I saw that my outside life began to improve too, and I experienced less control, worry, insecurity, anger, upset, jealousy, comparison and grief. These states were no longer being triggered and instead I was beginning to embody increased states of well-being, self-trust, creative ventures, compassion, love and acceptance for myself and others around me.
I dedicated 7 years of my life volunteering alongside Mada and then trained as a facilitator of her technique called the Dalian Method in April 2015. I am one of about 25 people in the world currently trained to offer guidance with this method and of course more pioneers will join us too in due course . We all work together under the Dalian School of Health and Consciousness. We each can help you to eradicate the root cause of any suffering that is being experienced, either mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually.
During the last seventeen-year period of personal development with Mada Dalian, I helped to empower my own three children through key moments in their life and they overcame non-serving imprints that they had inadvertently picked up from us, their parents. They learnt how to avoid putting attention on worry, how to trust their own inner voice, how to be decisive and clear about their choices, even if their peers were asking for something else. They also learnt about their own fears of survival and their fear to be alone, as they navigated the difficult path of a cancer diagnosis for their father, in 2012 followed by another one in 2014. They each learnt how to discern and make wise choices for themselves.
What does it mean to be a facilitator of the Self Empowering Dalian Method?
It means that it is safe to share your struggles with me, since I have faced my own and have no judgment of others facing their challenges. The key is to share so that transformation can arise for you and your loved ones.
In 2015, I began to offer one-on-one help, seminars, consulting programs and virtual trainings, to help parents overcome relationship dilemmas in their home, challenges with self-confidence and self-trust, and guidance on how to overcome fears, anxieties that surface, so that everyone is empowered, happy, and self- motivated.
In 2016, I began to extend this work into associations and organizations. Helping groups of people in workshop settings initially and then tailoring personalized programs for executives.
In 2018, I became the president of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers, Vancouver and BC Chapter, having served as treasurer in 2016 and programming director in 2017 and extended the share of this work through conferences as a keynote speaker.
In 2020, I began to focus on helping myself and others with health challenges using the Dalian Method. My husband had previously faced two cancer battles and his symptoms were graciously managed with Mada Dalian’s direct input and then my mother faced her own cancer diagnosis – leaving me to grapple with my own emotions and symptoms around potentially losing her. She did not use the Dalian method for herself, but I did, to deal with the emotional ride my own body went through during this time. Then my best friend in 2023 faced terminal cancer, and I supported her using the Dalian Method until she died in 2025.
Thus I now show parents how to be as quick and nimble as a CEO of a corporation, and be able to navigate the demands of family life successfully, so that everyone thrives in a collaborative, harmonious way, each becoming self-motivated self-confident beings!
I show executives and leaders how to embody their role without being encumbered by their unconscious bias and judgments, so they can respond to the competitive demands appropriately and minimise their stress, and increase the level of happiness and productivity of their colleagues.
Finally I show individuals how to navigate illness without overwhelm and learn how to transform symptoms that are often perceived as incurable by the medical system, back into a body reset.
No challenge is a challenge too far for the self Empowering Dalian Method.
What do I enjoy doing when I am not working?
I love getting dressed up and dancing.
I really enjoy writing poetry and every birthday or Christmas my three children receive their heart filled moments of communication from me through my poetry. I love transferring my deepest wishes for them in this way. In fact siblings, and friends also get treasured in the same way.
When I turned 50, I was delighted to be surprised by my youngest daughter who offered me a poem back to celebrate my special day
I also drive everyone crazy, taking photos at every opportunity. My kids are probably the most photographed in history, but it gives me such joy, I cannot stop frustrating them. They have learnt how to smile picture perfect for me, whether they are at home in their onesies, or are out being treated on holiday or in a restaurant!
And of course, there is walking and trekking that I adore. I cannot resist a good walk on my own or with friends and family.
What are some things about me that hardly anyone else knows?
When I was growing up, I worked on farms and picked “peas” to make small contributions of money for the family. I would go to bed with my hair combed in plaits so that I did not have to wake up too early. (thanks to my mother’s ingenuity)
My parents are adorable people. They’re both extremely hard- working, loving and caring, and live way too far from me….back in the UK. I have both of their photos parked on my bedside table, along with my crystal Buddha. That is how I see them, my first and greatest loving teachers.
At school my biggest moment of embarrassment was when I had been recognized for my reading ability and was asked to read to the headmaster as a reward to “show off” my success. Unfortunately when I got to him, I was asked to read the word “tongue”, and not having come across it before, I said it phonetically as “tong…goo”. I felt so bad at having let myself down!
I was stunned by Swarovski crystal and its rainbow effects as a child and vowed I would purchase pieces when I could afford it. Rainbows have always mesmerized me. At around age 23ish I started collecting Swarovski and now I have way too much to display, much to the chagrin of my husband! My favorite piece is my crystal Buddha. Of course I collect Swarovski jewelry too!
I love stage musicals, and at every opportunity will go to watch in London or New York. Of course I cannot sing, having tried three times to get into the school choir unsuccessfully! My most favorite show was Les Miserables, no doubt to reflect the sadness in my heart and also the ideal of escaping hardship! The depth of connection I have felt each time I watched, cannot be put into words, and stirs me, even as I write this. The triumph from that darkness is really how I see my own life too.
I love to have a go at adventurous things but often get into sticky situations. On the ski slope, my son and daughter had to watch me slide down on my backside, ski trousers full of snow, when suddenly I froze and my boots would not go back into my skis!
Even whilst being taught with an instructor in Europe, I insisted that the instructor had been too hasty in taking me up a steep mountain and I refused to ski down. (I found myself parked on the back of his skis as he brought me down!!!)
I gave birth to each of my three children naturally, only using a TENS machine, being very keen not to take medications, not even gas and air. When it came to delivering my youngest daughter, the net result of the above decision was to find myself bed bound unable to walk, since the birth had taken longer than a day, and I had insisted on doing it my way, despite the doctors wanting to speed things up with their intervention! My husband carried me on his back to visit a chiropractor so that I could be put back together. Lol.
I love great endings, and anything that defies the “Humpty Dumpty Who Had a Great Fall” story, because it is wonderful when all is patched up again!
Little things I’m working on improving about myself:
Taking vitamins more consistently.
Exercise with more regularity.
De clutter with greater enthusiasm
Take risks to add a new adventure to my life every year.
What are some of my favorite places in the world?
- Seychelles
- Maui
- Vancouver
- Disney Florida
- Bahamas- Atlantis
- Venice, Italy
- India
- Paris and London.
I share at the end of the “about me” page, the poem that Saphren gave me for my 50th. It still tickles me so much! Together we parents get to enjoy similar triumphs in our individual homes. God Bless.
Together we entrepreneurs and executives get to feel similar joy in connection with ourselves and our colleagues at work, as the bulk of our working hours are spent this way, we might as well be truly fulfilled!
Am I Kindi? or is that just a name?
Am I an Accountant? or is that just a qualification?
Am I Indian? or is that just the lineage I was born into ?
Am I my body? or is that just the temporary mass that one day will turn to dust?
Am I my mind? or is that just a collection of data and previous experiences accumulated?
Am I my emotions? or are they just impermanent reactive states?
Am I my achievements and the roles I perform? or are these just activities I have engaged in?
Am I separate? or is that just an illusion?
Am I a puppet? or driven by love, a bigger game?
Who am I? Who am I? Who am I?
Who is the voice inside my head?
Who is asking these questions?
Who is breathing?
Who is aging everyday?
Who is talking?
Who is writing?
Who is deciding what to do?
Who likes glitzy clothing?
Who enjoys poetry?
Who hikes and walks in nature?
Who loves to be on the ocean with the wind in her hair?
Who loves to hug?
Who is watching all of this as it arises?
Who am I? Who am I? Who am I?
If I knew “who I am” then I would know “who you are too”.
To know this would be the miracle…………the most amazing human miracle on this earth…the way to feeling truly whole inside!
No division. Simple unity. Integration. Acceptance. Relaxation. True life. Love.
