Really happy to be sharing my words of wisdom on this blog!
I am going to start with a story about joy and expansion…and hence the beginning of visibility on a blog for me…this is both joyful and expansive!
We were recently in Joshua Tree national park and asked to find a quiet spot and see what message the silence in the park was offering each of us.
For me, I climbed to a spot high up, where nothing was jumping out at me…until I turned to my right and I saw this image.
Immediately I saw the sign “a smiley face” in the rock! My message was joy, joy, joy…BE HAPPY.
I was not to know, that later on in that same week, through the deep transformative work that I had been undertaking for the last six years with the Dalian Method, that I would come face to face…WITH INTERNAL JOY in finding “who I truly am”, a knowing that can only be experienced and is available for everyone to claim as their birthright.
It is an experience that never dulls and stays with us and is not dependent on anyone or anything outside of ourselves. It is also the route of all anguish in us as human beings since our inner is programmed with a longing to discover this part that silently waits to be discovered inside of us.
Up until now, I had mistakenly felt that joy came from living the Cinderella story and that we get rescued by someone, so that we might be happy. And of course happiness meant money, beautiful things, comfortable home and gloriously delightful children along with a super perfect partner as a soul mate.
It turns out we have the responsibility to rescue ourselves, and that in fact if those around us refuse to fill our “holes” and “needs for love”, they are doing that because they simply cannot fill our holes- they are merely pushing us back to ourselves to simply find LOVE INSIDE…and best of all this love can never be lost. There is no dependence on anyone or anything outside of us to be able to attain such beauty and magnificence inside of us.
We must stop reading fairytales to our children, implying they will live happily ever after, only if Prince Charming or the Princess materializes. This is simply childish. Real wisdom knows, no-one can fill our holes.
And if we know early on in life that we have to look inside for the deepest treasures that we can ever find in life, less energy would be wasted settling for second best in life….and of course there would be much less suffering.
Self worth is self love…and self love does not come from external validation. It transcends the outside reality completely and arrives at our doorstep from within… a place that we are all united in, and a part that can never cease to be!
