“Love everything about yourself…including what you dislike, judge and repress!”
-Mada Eliza Dalian
Loving everything includes my body shape…and oh boy have I spent years and years disappointed with my curves, to only find that as I look back over the years, I have had such wasted moments of upset…relative to my current shape I looked fantastic. What was I thinking? With a bit of distance, is that not how we end up looking at anything that in the heat of the moment seems so important?
I could have been happy with everything I saw in the mirror each day, and yet my mind had won by claiming that what I saw was not good enough!! Sad…Well at least the Dalian Method created the much needed distance from the story being played internally.
As for my current shape, yea sure, I could feel fitter and there is room for improvement, but it is fair to say that I am comfortable that I am where I am ! I am happy there is acceptance, albeit that there is still room for progress- after all we are on a journey and in each moment, perfection cannot be the target, we are just work-in-progresses! If we met utopia, there would be nothing more to learn or do?!!! How ridiculous would that feel.
Loving everything about myself including what I dislike, judge and repress.
Wow, this is an interesting one. As I kid I disliked housework with great intensity. I would duck and dive to avoid as much of it as possible. When I got married, I had to count my lucky stars since my husband appeared to have no problem taking charge in the kitchen. Despite the fact that all was being managed, I was defensive about anyone being critical about my skills in domesticity and shy of taking the lead. This defensiveness I guess was to cover up for my own feelings of inadequacy.
The voice inside my head kept telling me I was short of meeting the required standards and yet my three children revelled at the dishes that I eventually began to cook. It took some time, before I fully embraced the fact that actually I am a great cook…The Dalian Method eventually silenced the voice inside my head and aided a path of taking greater risks and creating new dishes! lol
As for housework, like cleaning, I laugh at myself as to how much I loathed those tasks. Again with the help of the Dalian Method the resistance towards these chores began to fall away…what a strange by product of attaining higher consciousness!
One could not imagine that at a practical level in the material world that such gains could come about through transformation…..how bizarre. The beauty being that now the cleaning can be done in total acceptance, and no resistance at all, and for me this has been part of the process of feeling whole within…the female is now complimented with the male inside me.
Today I have cleaned my house for six to seven hours- and as I crouched over the skirting boards I smiled at myself at the grace with which the work was being done and how meticulous I was in my care. This job seemed so precious and important, and yet 20 years ago, imagining that this would unfold for me seemed impossible!
You see if my mind had asked for these changes to occur, I would have remained inconsistent and my willingness would still have come with a degree of resistance. With consciousness, my new nature does not argue with what needs doing….there is no need to hand over the responsibility to others to fulfill…in fact doing it myself is bringing so much joy, that the desire to act is happening on its own.
I wanted to share these silly aspects of my life today to show how small and yet very significant the changes can be with the Dalian Method.
So if you have not been willing to take on a task, be it the desire to speak up, study, go apply for a new job, ask for a raise or share your gifts, the key message to take from my posting today is that the Dalian Method helps you to take full responsibility for your life…and the “use of energy belonging to others” naturally stops.
And with full responsibility it is very easy to love oneself…and accept it all.
Sending everyone a big hug for Easter.
