Freedom Ahead of Love
It is strange how a loving parent will do so much for their child. Cook for them, drive them around, hug them, nurse their tears, encourage them, nurture them, want the best for them, surprise them…..the list goes on and on!
However deep that love though, FREEDOM still comes ahead as a human need. Our youngest daughter passed her driving test a few days ago, and today, she took my car and independently drove to School in it, and then beyond afterwards. She was thrilled with her freedom, as was I. Baby steps toward living her life on her own terms. I am excited for this new chapter of growth for her.
Authenticity
In a family, differing views and perspectives come to dance with one another, sometimes resulting in clashes that can never be repaired.
Harmony arises with the understanding that each has a voice that contributes to the whole. Yesterday we had a debate that enlisted five perspectives, and shortly afterward, without holding grudges, each came away feeling heard and honoured. No one shamed, made to feel wrong, but all left with a broader perspective than their own individual eye could see.
This is the magic of family life when transparency and authentic “self awareness” drives the conversations, and each is happy to acknowledge their own learning and growth too. ❤️ All rooted in the value of freedom first. Freedom to be yourself.
Gratitude
When true gratitude arises- it spontaneously surfaces from within. It comes in recognition of the amazing laws in life, in awe of the precision in which we are helped to evolve. It accompanies an ever growing trust in life too and an understanding of unconditional love that helps to preserve freedom.
Gratitude is often nurtured/practiced by people as a deliberate thing, but this does not mean that their heart has opened. In fact it means quite the opposite, a sense of lack is lurking, and thus gratitude is pursued to combat the lack being felt, as the undercurrent of tension wants to be relieved by receiving more!
When the heart knows, lack is not in the equation at all. It is impossible for these two things to happen simultaneously. This is because the heart flowers as the ego-mind dissolves, and understanding comes in around its’ false ideas of lack and separation, and only then does spontaneous gratitude truly arise. This gratitude is miraculous, almost like a prayer of delight.
Don’t settle for the forced version- the real is so much sweeter. This is where your freedom lies.
